The first time you ask and your child doesn’t respond…maybe he didn’t hear you.

But when the second ask goes unanswered, it’s time to pause and listen.

Something else is going on.

Take a breath.

Slow down.

STOP 🛑 asking your child.

START asking yourself instead…

👉 I wonder why he’s not responding?
👉 Is he lost in play?
👉 Stuck in anger?
👉 Filled with frustration?

It’s time to switch tactics instead of repeating the same question over and over again.

→ Come close.
→ Make eye contact.
→ Ask in a playful way.
→ Put what you were asking aside.
→ Spend a few minutes with them.
→ Give them a warm hug.
→ Dive into their world of play and activities.

THEN come back to the ask with kindness, love, and understanding.

💛 he’s doing his best.
💛 he’s amazing.
💛 there’s a good reason his brain’s decided not to comply.
💛 he’s NOT ignoring you or being disrespectful.

Approaching with compassion instead of judgment allows you to truly understand your child and transform your relationship with them.

Discover the power of the ONLY ASK TWICE rule.

It’s simple, yet incredibly powerful! 💪✨

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Andee Martineau

Andee’s a mom of 6, reformed yeller, and the creator of Connect Method Parenting. She’s on a mission to help moms feel in control, bring the fun back into parenting, and ditch the yelling, corrections, and endless feelings of failure!

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