Feel now – Slow Down

Many of us moms are in a hurry to feel ๐Ÿ’™ better.

I get it…life can be painful and hard.

We don’t want to feel upset, frustrated, disappointed, or angry so we try to stop the emotions by getting them over as fast as possible.

โ†’ We get frustrated that our kids aren’t listening.
โ†’ Wish we weren’t yelling so much.
โ†’ Feel awful and want to feel better and do better now!!

So we eat a brownie, push the emotion away, avoid the situation, and hope things will go better tomorrow.

Most of us weren’t taught that slowing down and feeling the emotion was how we’d start feeling better. ๐Ÿ’›

It’s counterintuitive.

It seems like welcoming the emotions in, would cause the “negative” emotions to stay longer.

So we keep stuffing, ๐Ÿ˜” avoiding, and reacting to our emotions instead of feeling them and things don’t change.

Because we donโ€™t change by avoiding and rushing through our life.

When things start to feel uncomfortable…

๐Ÿ‘‰ We need to slow down.
๐Ÿ‘‰ Where need to be where we are.
๐Ÿ‘‰ We need to feel what we feel.
๐Ÿ‘‰ We need to understand why we donโ€™t feel good.
๐Ÿ‘‰ We need to become aware of whatโ€™s causing the unrest.
๐Ÿ‘‰ We need to ask, why the unrest?
๐Ÿ‘‰ Why am I feeling this way?
๐Ÿ‘‰ Why the painful thoughts?
๐Ÿ‘‰ We need to sit in it for a while, process it, notices, let our body feel it.

Be with it for as long as it takes to feel it all the way through.

The goal isnโ€™t to feel better fast.

๐Ÿš€๐Ÿš€ THE GOAL IS TO FEEL! โ˜€๏ธโ˜€๏ธ

We feel better by allowing ALL our emotions.

The positive ones and the negative ones.

This is how we understand ourselves.

๐Ÿ™Œ We gain awareness.

We notice ๐Ÿง our resistance.

๐Ÿง  We get curious and dive into where we are and why.

And then we begin to gain ๐Ÿ‘Š authority over it.

We stay with it.

Ask why.

Slow down even more.

There isnโ€™t anything to escape, avoid, or hide from. ๐Ÿคฉ

There is just understanding, and through that understanding comes freedom. ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

 

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Andee Martineau

Andee’s a mom of 6, reformed yeller, and the creator of Connect Method Parenting. Sheโ€™s on a mission to help moms feel in control, bring the fun back into parenting, and ditch the yelling, corrections, and endless feelings of failure!

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