Allow parenting to transform you into the person you were meant to be!
Parenting is an amazing opportunity for growth and REAL change…because so often there is no other choice.
Sounds great right?! But how do you actually do it? That’s what I asked myself all those years ago.
Here’s a little tip…
As you lean into Connect Method Parenting DO NOT let your subconscious brain be in charge.
You’re gonna want to put your conscious mind to work when you’re switching from corrective to connective parenting.
Because the subconscious mind runs on past programs, and you’re creating a new program from the future.
Which is awesome!
You 100% want the subconscious to be running the show on things like driving the car or doing the dishes.
Activities that are repetitive that we’re satisfied and happy with.
This is where the subconscious mind shines!
It will make sure the job gets done.
It is SOOOOOO POWERFUL.
It can process 40 million bits of data per second.
While the conscious mind (the prefrontal cortex) can only process 40 bits of data per second. So heck yeah you want it to be helping you put on repeat the things that are working in your life.
But here’s the deal.
If you want to change your parenting from corrective to connective we’re gonna need to use the conscious part of the mind to switch things up.
We have to get PRESENT with what’s going on…and for that, we need to engage the conscious part of our mind.
We pick something we want to change and start looking at it with our conscious mind…bringing up everything we can from our subconscious mind so we can examine it, understand it, and embrace it.
This is where the dance begins.
We dance between the two parts of your brain, and it’s amazing because the brain & body are incredible tools.
But they are NOT the boss of you. They are NOT you.
So many of us get this wrong.
We think we are impatient, frustrated, or angry.
Nope, these reactions are just in response to a program in your subconscious brain.
We see them and start to learn how to not react to them.
When we forget this…
We let our brain’s tendency to seek pleasure and comfort direct our actions. We beat ourselves up when we know better but can’t do better.
We let our desire to not want to feel ‘negative’ emotions keep us from feeling our emotions.
We let our brain’s design, to look for danger, leave us stressed and afraid.
We walk around filled with anxiety and avoidance.
But when we understand this is just how our brains are…
…we can see it, manage it, and use it.
We can choose a new story, feel all the emotions, and create something different.
I know it sounds basic.
>> Notice your thoughts.
>> Feel your emotions.
>> Question your beliefs.
>> Chose something different.
>> Practice until it becomes your new default.
But if you don’t start doing this you’ll needlessly suffer.
Instead, program your brain with thoughts you want to think. Feelings you want to feel. Results you want to create.
Then practice believing them until you actually do.
This is what it looks like to live on purpose.
The part of you that decides for your brain…that’s the real you.